As a wedding photographer, who has been married for 11 years, I almost feel like the ghost of marriage future who gets to visit couples on the day they make the same decision I made in July of 2003. The biggest difference between me and Jacob Marley’s scary future ghost is that my glimpse into the years to come is full of life and hope not doom and gloom. The truth is, marriage is hard. It just is. I don’t care how it appears or who you talk to, it’s just not easy. It’s a constant give and take…it’s a daily, deliberate sacrifice of yourself for someone else. My own marriage has been a real adventure, complete with lots of ups and lots of downs…some really high, highs, and some really low, lows. If the ghost of marriage future had shown up at my own wedding with the highlight reel of some of those lows, I think I would have been totally hopeless. So, I decided to go into wedding photography to warn everyone about what’s coming, right? Not quite. I love weddings. They are my thing. really. I love wedding cake and bridesmaid dresses and bouquets and dancing. I really do. BUT, while I’m photographing all of those things, they aren’t necessarily what’s on my mind. By the time I shoot your wedding, we’re friends. I genuinely care about my brides and grooms. So, as your friend, I am beyond excited about the adventure you are about to embark on. Your’s will be different than mine, but it will be your story, complete with your own highs and lows. Because I know that God is writing your story, I know that He is orchestrating your ups and downs. I know that in a few years, you will be just as thankful for the downs as you are for the ups, maybe more so. I know that He is good and He knows best and He loves your spouse way more than you do. He truly does know the future of your marriage, because He designed it. He is trustworthy and He is faithful. As your friend and your wedding photographer, I want your photos to reflect the beginning of your adventure in a way that will remind you of the good times during the bad ones. When I’m spending hours going through your photos and staring at you, your friends, and your family, I am hoping and praying that seeing those photos will be a reminder to you of the good work that God began in your relationship and promises to complete in both of you. God has grown me more in the context of my marriage than in any other season of my life. I absolutely love the fact that He has given me the privilege of photographing couples on the day that their own adventures begin.
I don’t even know where to begin with these two. I love Joel (or is it Michael? ) and Ivie. I am SO thankful for the day I received Ivie’s e-mail asking if I could photograph their wedding. I am already experiencing some withdrawals because it is over (is it really over already? ). They are great. Their friends are great. Their families are great. Their wedding was great. I just can’t really explain all of the greatness that is “Joel and Ivie” in words. I hope their wedding photos will speak for me.
***I would like to thank my dear friend, Molly, for shooting this wedding with me. She spent her New Year’s Eve with me instead of her family (and Ryan Seacrest) and for that I am eternally grateful!!!!!!! Thanks for taking pictures, wrangling flower girls, and making me laugh, Molly!!!!!***
“It really is true-a marriage of unity, understanding, and love is not rooted in romance. It is rooted in worship. It is when we love God more than we love ourselves and when we quit building our own little kingdom and start seeking his that we will love our spouse. When we really do love our husband or wife, we will be willing to do the hard work that such love requires. When we do the hard work that love requires, we will be humbled by how weak and needy we are when it comes to love, and we will begin to celebrate the love of God that is with us in our moment of greatest need. When we are daily aware that we are being loved, we will be excited about loving our husband or wife in the same way. And when our spouse is being treated with daily love, respect, and appreciation, he or she will be encouraged to love us in return. Do you want this kind of marriage? If so, worship God above anything else. Do the hard work of love to which he has called you. And trust that he is with you with transforming grace in his hands.”
-Paul David Tripp
Joel and Ivie, the fun is just beginning…